Well dang it – Here I am 3 weeks into summer and just hitting publish on this post. If ya’ll saw how many half finished posts are in my draft box in wordpress you’d laugh. But man blog posts are SO DARN time consuming. Way more time consuming than running my international R&F business. But I do love it so here goes anyways, better late than never.
I wanted to get this out there before summer hits and our day in life changes. But here we are first day of summer which means it was my first day home with all three boys. We’re actually packing up to head to the beach for a week so with the excitement of that ahead the true summer days haven’t quite hit us yet. Man time is flying though, as expected. I feel like I was just adjusting to a newborn and taking James to preschool from 9 to 1pm. A couple people have asked how life is with three, so I thought doing a day in the life would be a fun way to give ya’ll some insight. This was our typical day when school was still in session and I’ll throw in some of my life with three kids two sense along the way.
7am: Somewhere in between middle of the night feedings I end up sleeping in the bed in Townes’s nursery. The boys come in around 7am and jump on me and tell me its time to wake up. Normally they’re sent up by Daddy to wake me up. Daddy jumps in the shower, I grab Townes, nurse him for a few minutes and head to the kitchen to make the boys breakfast.
7:15am: Waffles, Cereal, Pancakes, English Muffins, Raisin bread, banana bread….if its a carb my kids will eat it for breakfast. I’ve tried eggs, oatmeal and grits over and over again with zero luck. With Townes in his bouncer, watching the action, I turn on cartoons and carb load the older boys. While the boys eat I go upstairs and bring them down clothes to wear for the day.
7:25am: Getting detailed here with the time because Hunter knows he has until 7:25 to eat and then he has 10 minutes to get dressed, brush his hair/teeth, and put his snack in his book bag. At 7:35am he has to be out the door to make it to school in time.
7:35am: Big Hunter is ready, heads into the kitchen to kiss me goodbye and drops little Hunter off at school on his way into work. It’s always a little sigh of relief getting the two of them out the door but now I have Townes and James up next.
7:35am – 8:35am: For the next hour I make James’s lunch, wrestle with him to get dressed, pump, get myself dressed, and Townes dressed all while chugging coffee.
8:40am: James and Townes are loaded up and were off to take James to school. If Townes and I plan to run errands or hit up starbucks after dropping James off then I pack a bottle with the milk I just pumped. Since fresh pumped milk is good up to 6 hours that’s always sort of my trick…pump before we go out. If we plan to go out to dinner one night I try to pump at like 5pm right before we leave so I have a fresh bottle if Townes should need it at any point. I’m just not a good public nurser and this way too I can enjoy a glass of wine without worrying when hunger is going to strike him. I digress.
9am: Drop James off. This is my second sigh of relief for the day. Now it’s just Townes and I which seems like heaven. Funny to think one baby used to stress me out haha. And that’s not to downplay all the new mom’s out there with one child. One IS hard, your figuring everything out and its a total shock to your system and daily routine. By the third you’ve figured some things out (like breast feeding), how to get everyone out of the house in under 5minutes, and your body is used to the lack of sleep so in that sense it’s a lot easier. What I have found is harder is whatever smidgen of time you did have before three kids, its now gone. With three someone ALWAYS needs something. A bandaid, a butt wiped, a water gun filled, help finding their shoes. And my older two are pretty self sufficient at 6 and 4 years so I can only imagine this is especially the case when people have three closer in age. So yeah, the busy-ness would be the only tough thing or change from two to three that I’ve noticed so far.
9:15am: So this became my favorite part of our day. A few days a week Townes and I would hit up the local Starbucks. I’d get a coffee and some breakfast and we’d sit in one of the big comfy chairs there. I’d hold him, feed him his bottle and sip my coffee. It was just so relaxing. I didn’t have a dirty house staring me in the face and it was fun socializing with the other regulars there. Townes was always in the best mood too. The boy loves him the smell of fresh brewed coffee and the soothing sound of Starbucks music playlist. God bless him.
10am – 12pm: Here’s were every day varied. Some days I’d have an errand to run like target or the post office. Some days I’d meet up with a business partner or potential business partner, but for the most part we’d head home and Townes would go straight to his swing were’d he’d nap the entire 2 hours. This would allow me to either get house work done, or work my Rodan + Fields business.
12pm – 1pm: I wake Townes up from his nap, nurse him, and make myself a smoothie for lunch. We play a bit and then hop in the car to go get James from Preschool.
1pm-1:30pm: We get James loaded up and sometimes run a quick errand but most of the time head home.
1:30pm – 3pm: James, Townes and I play for about 30 minutes after we get home and then both boys go down for naps. For the hour they are sleeping I either do house work or R+F work.
3pm – 3:15pm: Boys are awake or I wake them up. Nurse Townes and then load them into the stroller to stroll to the bus stop to get Hunter off the bus.
3:30pm – 5:30pm: We’re all home. The older boys grabs snacks and play together. I usually play with Townes, pump, fold laundry and start to figure out what we are going to have for dinner. Twice a week from 4pm – 5pm we all load up into the car and head to swim lessons at the YMCA across from our house.
5:30pm – Daddy’s home YAY!!!!
5:30pm – 6:30pm: We all either enjoy a drink on the porch while the boys play a bit longer or all hang out in the kitchen chatting about our days while we cook dinner. Townes will be in his bouncer on the kitchen counter, the boys might be in the living room watching a show or in the kitchen keeping room with us.
6:30pm – 7pm: We all sit to eat and chat. I’d say about half of the time we all eat together even if we aren’t eating the same thing. The boys might have a modified version of what we’re having or we made them easy fish nuggets or chicken tenders if they absolutely won’t like what we are having. If we don’t eat at the same time then I’ll still sit with them and hold Townes and Hunter will be cooking our adult dinner.
7pm: Let the tag teaming begin. One of us will stay downstairs while the boys finish up dinner and one of us will go put Townes to bed.
7:30pm: Bath, Books, Bed, the three B’s for the older boys.
8pm: All kiddos are in bed and we sit down to eat and relax
9pm: Hunter will watch a show in his rocking chair in the kitchen (please tell ya’ll have seen the hilariousness on my instastories haha), and I’ll run off to my bedroom to work R+F for an hour or so.
11pm: G’nite It’s rare we go to bed before 11pm and often times its midnight. Were night owls and for now our kids let us sleep till 7pm.
Now the number of kids you want is clearly a very personal decision but for Hunter and I we always knew we wanted three. There was a time there though when James was 2 and Hunter was 4 and life was still too nutty. We just decided to wait until the timing felt right. It did take us 8 months to get pregnant so had we gotten pregnant right away James and Townes would be more like 3 years apart. 4 years is perfect though, I wouldn’t change a thing. Both the older boys just love Townes to death and are such big helpers which was a total different experience from when James was born. When James was born Hunter was 2 and hated him. He acted out, sleep regressed, I cried over “ruining” our family- it was a tough transition. This transition now the boys were older was perfect. And listen – if you are thinking of a third…do it!! You won’t regret it. Maybe its just knowing he’s our last too but I just treasure every little snuggle, coo, and first. I don’t stress over how much he’s eating or sleeping or what he should be doing I truly just enjoy him. If he’s happy, we’re happy. Now I’m sure this will all come back to bit me in the butt when he’s One and not sleeping through the night yet but for now, it’s perfection.
Hope this gives some of you Mama’s that asked a little perspective. Always happy to answer any questions. Ya’ll have a wonderful week. xoxo